In many areas of our life we run across rules that we have to follow, most of them for our own good. There are traffic rules. We have safety rules at many places of employment, sports venues, and nature preserves. We even have rules to ensure fair play for all sorts of games. In our Scripture passage today from the Gospel of Matthew, the Lord set out some rules for how the Church was to deal with a member who had fallen into sin. Let’s take a look at what the steps are and see how well our churches, and ourselves, are following our Lord’s instructions.
Immediately prior to our Scripture passage, Jesus had told His disciples the very brief parable about the one sheep who had gone astray and gotten lost, and how the shepherd set out to find the missing sheep. Now He instructs His followers about what to do when a fellow believer goes astray, does something wrong and falls into sin. Jesus gives us here a clear, step-by-step process for confronting sin among believers, grounded in truth, and aiming at restoration.
The first step is to be a private confrontation (vs. 15). Jesus stated that if a fellow Christian brother, not an unbeliever, sins against us or we see that they have fallen into some type of sinful behavior, we are to go to him alone and try to talk it out. This is to be about an actual sin, something that the Scriptures identify as wrong, not just a difference of opinion, or being super-sensitive about something. As soon as we realize this, we are to go to them, taking the initiative. We shouldn’t sit and stew about this. Nor are we to go and gossip with other people about the matter. It is to be between yourself and him alone. This way we protect their dignity and avoid public shame.
What if the person who has fallen into some sin, and to whom you have tried talking to, won’t listen to you? Not everyone is willing to admit they are in sin, or at fault in a matter. Jesus then said that if this person refuses to receive correction then you are to bring one or two other witnesses with you (vs. 16). This would typically be your priest or pastor and possibly a deacon or elder of the church. Just one or two others, as you don’t want a mob, where the person feels like everyone is ganging up on them. They should be godly believers and no one who would be spreading rumors around. This follows the principle of Deuteronomy 19:15. Having witnesses ensures fairness, accuracy, and accountability. It protects against false accusations and emotional reactions, keeping the process Biblical and not personal.
There is always the possibility that this person will not forsake the sin that he or she has fallen into, despite your godly concern, and that of the one or two that have come with you. If the believer still refuses repentance, then Jesus instructed that the matter should then be brought before the whole congregation of the local church, where they collectively call the person to repentance (vs. 17). If they refuse to listen to the whole congregation and get right with the Lord, then he is to be treated as an unbeliever. He is to be excommunicated, not with hatred but with concern that they forsake the sin that they have gotten into, turn their life around, and be restored.
There are some Christians, even whole congregations, that refuse to follow these instructions that Jesus gave. They do not want to “judge” other believers, even when they fall into sin. However, avoiding confrontation is disobedience to God’s Word. Church discipline is not optional. It is commanded by Jesus for the purity of the church. Paul spoke of this in I Corinthians 5. A church that refuses to discipline members who have fallen into persistent sin are refusing to obey what God has instructed them to be doing. God demands holiness among His people (I Peter 1:15-16). He has given the church the authority to act in matters of discipline. Jesus Himself is present when the church obeys His commands in discipline (vs. 19-20). He stands with the church when it confronts sin.
This is Jesus’ authoritative steps for confronting sin within the local church. It is a command, not a suggestion, nor something we should ignore because it doesn’t fit in with today’s idea of refraining from all judgment. This protects the purity of the church, promotes unity, and reflects the Father’s heart for wandering sheep. When a church follows this pattern, Jesus Himself stands in the midst of His people, validating their obedience and guiding their decisions.